Tuesday, March 17, 2009

To Work or Not To Work... Now that's a question

-I am feeling torn.

-I got offered a good job up in Salt Lake City

-The plus side it would help pay bills down more quickly.
-The negative side would be me having to leave my wonderful little girl in the care of someone that isn't me.

-I have a knot in my chest and I'm extremely anxious about this decision... What do I do? Who do I talk to? Am I a bad person for thinking this?

-I wish their were an EASY BUTTON that I could press and make everything clear to me.

-Lots of Prayers, Scripture Study and Soul Searching.



The Johnson Family said...

Oh, I know the feeling. I just went back to work for the first time in 6 years about 7 weeks ago. It was so hard to leave Brayden, but we had to do it. What makes it all okay is that I know Brayden is taken care of and loved very much while I am gone. For me, working had given me a lot of drive to do more and even finish my degree. It is a hard thing to do, but it does get easier. If you want to talk, let me know.

One Fish said...

You are so not a terrible person for thinking about the job. You guys are the ones who will know what is best for your family. I think you have the right idea about how to decide this.

Devanie said...

I know this may seem Molly-Mo of me- but I HATED having my mom go to work when my parents got divorced. I hated coming home to an empty house and cartoons after school. My mom had to go to work- she didn't have a choice, but I wish she would have been able to stay home. She's so amazing and there's so much more I could have learned from her while still living at home. By the time my mom got home from work, she was tired and stressed because then she had to fix dinner and help us kids with homework and all that jazz. No time to relax for her. I think by the time I was in High School, I was doing enough extra-curricular activities to keep me busy- and by the time you're in high school you don't think you need your mom around. But at LEAST until I was in junior high would have been great. Then again- junior high is when you need some stability in your life because all of your friends are pulling you one way or the other- Mom would have been helpful to have around here too.... definitely a lot to thik about - good luck!

Devanie said...

maybe you could work from home... my friend does medical transcripting and makes good money from home- if you're interested, I could find out what company :)

Rachel said...

Hi! My kids have been in the care of someone else for 50 hours a week since they were 3 months old. They are both very happy kids and very social. I attribute that to being watched by other people. Some day care, some family, some friends. I miss them like CRAZY! but I think they are happy campers and it is harder on me than it is on them. Whatever you decide, Avi will be a loved little girl, and that is the most important thing!

farfar said...

Hey hard decision. Figure out if you are really even going to make that much money once you put your kids in day care. A lady i was just talking to figured out that she wouldn't make much of anything after the day care bill got paid. Just something to think about and good luck

Myriah said...

As a single, no-children sort of person, I say take the job. TAKE THE JOB! In case you haven't noticed, we are in a recession. A job is a blessing. I know lots of people who are getting laid off and there isn't another job out there for them. Not while we are in a recession (and maybe a depression) anyway. A job = blessing. A-Town 1st ward has been focusing on Provident Living. Talk to your parents about it. Or you can talk to mine about it. Anyway, jumping on opportunities (a job) is part of that. (So is paying off debts and putting money into savings.)

Now, concerns: Cost of childcare outweighing paycheck. This is obvious.

"Leaving" Avi. I don't know what this job entails, but it sounds like you will need to leave Avi for more than a few hours at a time. This simply means that you need to focus on the time you have with her and make it count. Before work, after work, weekends, etc..

Also, this job isn't forever. How long do you really think it will last? More than a year? Two years? Avi obviously won't be hitting puberty while you're still at this job, so I don't think you will be missing out on major experiences to mold your child and help her through life. (Not that the early years aren't important, I'm just saying that perhaps this job has come at a good time in the development of your family.)

Another concern (perhaps) is not being able to fully manage your household if you hold a job. This can be taken care of with planning and compromise (between you and Lance, and both of your goals.)

Obviously, this is a matter of discussion with Lance and prayer with the Father, but I decided to put my two cents in. Or, maybe that was more like 50 cents.

wonder woman said...

Is it a long-term thing? Is it full-time? What if you take the job, have a friend watch Avi, then move? Who will watch her then? I'd personally be much more in favor of a friend or family member watching her, and would that be possible if you move?

Call me if you want a sounding board. And when's the expo? e-mail if that's easier -eppermay at juno dot com-